This is another in my series of responses based on:
Answering the objection as concisely as possible.
Challenging the objector to think more deeply about his or her claim.
Facilitating a gospel conversation.
1. Let's define "send." Pretend someone who wanted to date you asked you out and reached out to you in socially acceptable ways a few times but you kept turning that person down. Yet, he or she doesn't give up no matter how forcefully you tell that person to leave you alone.
I’d call that person a stalker. Wouldn’t you?
Ultimately God reaches out to us to make himself known throughout our lives and asks us to love Him. But He's not going to force His way on us because He loves us enough to give us free will to choose or reject His love.
Eventually He allows us to spend eternity in a place without Him, and that's ultimately what hell really is - a place absent of His love. So isn't the most loving thing He can do is respect your free will and allow you to live free of Him, even if it makes you miserable for eternity?
2. What do you mean by "hell?" While the Bible certainly talks in terms of hell being punishment, exactly what the torment will be like remains unclear. The Bible also suggests in Matthew 11:24 degrees of punishment. Some people who hurt others may be punished more severely than those who lived quiet lives but did not obey God. Have your notions of hell been formed by what the Bible says, or what you’ve seen in fictional movies?
3. Shouldn't your definition of “loving” require God to dole out justice as well? Would God still be loving toward the victims if he allowed child murderers, mass shooters and genocidal dictators the same eternal life as people who have spent their lives doing good to others? If God is totally loving and just, he would let no crime go unpunished. If someone is damaged because of sexual abuse, isn't a loving God going to justify that wrong? At the same time, we've all been guilty of sinning, so God allows for all of us to avoid hell. Isn't having the option to be pardoned of our past the most loving thing a God could do?
4. Shouldn’t we be careful about defining "love" by our own standards when God, who knows everything, tells us we don't see the full picture in Isaiah 55:9. If God knows all, it could just be that we're not seeing the whole picture, and therefore will never fully understand this concept of how God could do things in perfect love that we could never grasp? Do you think it’s worth discussing if we can trust God?
Dive deeper into exploring what hell might be
If you want to explore the subject of what hell is, I strongly recommend Erasing Hell. At 130 pages, it's a short book but gives you an overview of the most common way many Christians view hell.